Transplant Tales: to China and back

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Still Kicking
As many of you have been either told by Eric or read here, that Eric an I have gone our separate ways.
Yes, this is true. We have endured so much over the years and most of our challenges have been these last two years. I am however, very much in the picture. Despite what Eric would like everyone to believe. I have been through rough waters these last two years and by no means abandoned ship.
Our separation was mutual. Eric has a lot of anger along with other issues to work through. I myself need to find me. Somewhere these last few years I lost who I was. Being engulfed in Eric and his illness. I allowed myself to be sacrificed.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I love my husband. Along with that love comes the "good" and the "bad," and I accept that.
The feelings that we share for one another are still very real. The time we still spend together validates that. What does the future hold for us?? Only time will tell. One thing I do know, is that we are becoming better friends.
God Bless
Wife of the Transplant Traveler


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2/27/2007 11:13 AM  
Anonymous Puja said...

Hi Lori, I saw the earlier post and was alarmed. I know your nature, and you would never abandon any ship--or Eric. I hope you (and Eric) are doing better.

Drop me a line sometime sweetie, and let me know how things are. Miss playing ball with you, and you're in my prayers.


3/06/2007 4:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Puja, thank you for the concern. These are trying times and just like everything else, we will pull through it.

drop me an email at

I would love to catch up.

3/06/2007 9:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the wife of Eric. At first I was really feeling sorry for you and all you have been through with Eric's illness. Then I read your comments about Eric's anger and stuff he has to work through. Damn right he's angry. The man might be checking out of this life and you seem to be kicking him while he is down. You are a piece of work. I haven't read anything bad about you that Eric has written, yet you twist the knife you stuck in his back. What did you do? Did you cheat on him, now the guilt is biteing you in the ass. Who's blog is this anyway. I came on to see how Eric is doing and I see this still kicking garbage. I noticed you have deleted all the comments directed towards you, and you leave the nasty stuff for all to read. What a gal you are! Eric, I will continue to pray for you and your children. As for your wife, she deserves what she gets!

3/07/2007 2:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To China and Back...
Old Chinese Proverb:
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect."

Wife has been strong and loyal - is Eric I ask? Eric's wife must be exhausted. Eric is strong for himself as he must be in this extremely difficult situation -- but loyal to her and family or just to himself, hmmm? True this is all about Eric's health and how he takes care of the body that God gave him, Did he take care of it? Is he still taking care of it? Eric's wife can only do so much, to watch someone you care for slowly die wicks you of all your strength and at this point -- his illness is seizing the life's blood from the mother of 2 of his children. As we all pretty much know Eric's fate. One can only imagine what Wife must endure as she prepares herself and her children for this. She cares for Eric, the household, goes to work, cares for the children... When does she have time to care for herself as there is life after death.

BTW: Wife of Transplant Traveler -- your post of 2/27/07 is very well written and I wish you and the children the best. You did what you had to do. Eric surely loves the children and it is great that through all this the two of you have become better friends.

Transplant Traveler -- I am deeply saddened by your fate although the somewhat bitter commentary about your marriage does not belong on this blog. This blog should remain about your experiences and your physical health and yes will be here for a very long time for your children to read. I must say I am against your making your marital issues sooooo public. If you need to vent talk with your Priest.

3/08/2007 12:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


I LOVE YOU. You are like a sister to me. I trust in you and your choices. I know you better than an anonymous person passing judgement on a situation they know very litte facts about.

It is a sad reality that such people are out there but all we can do is focus on the good we have in our lives, because there is PLENTY of it to keep us smiling. Nothing you could ever do would make me love you or respect you any less.

You have shown exceptional compassion and character in the past few years as some people close have not chosen to be so virtuous. "Let ye without sin cast the first stone" is what I have to say. You love your two wonderfull, sweet children and I have full confidence in you as a mother and as a human being.

We all want to love, to feel loved and to feel valued by the people we have in our lives. Just remember those who WILL NEVER and HAVE NEVER faultered in thier faith and love for you will ALWAYS be in your corner!

And btw... SOME people have too much class to try to hurt someone on such a public forum as this and those who hold thier heads high, such as yourelf, should be applauded.

<3 Lil Sister

3/08/2007 2:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am flabergasted at the comments made by Wife of the Transplant Traveler. I hear the word "wife" and I think of vows; to honor and obey, in sickness and in health, etc. You W.o.t.T.T., are the epitamy of narcisism. I am embarrased for you to allow your ego to bleed all over this blog! If the problem has been losing yourself these last few years with a sick husband, then it leads to believe that unfaithfulness was a contributor on your part. You have a perfect right to ruin your own life, but not your partner's. Next time I'd like to see a little more compassion and, oh I don't know, some kind of humanity from this suppossive wife. No wonder Eric has anger and issues.

Keep up the fight Eric. I admire your honesty in all experiences shared.

A fan.

3/12/2007 10:09 AM  

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